Is divorce inevitable these days

Forty and divorced.  Well, I'm glad it is now common to be divorced in Malaysia as compared to years ago. I don't feel so left-out, in fact I openly say I'm divorced, so what.  Many people usually say that they are sorry to hear that, but I wonder why... it's not that the hubby fled .. it was a mutual agreement to part made by two consenting adults. 

In fact, I believe  if you no longer enjoy the journey together as a couple then you need to be unselfish and part ways so the other can continue the journey, alone or with someone else. It is not easy when a child is involved but I feel children adjust to things and it's how we explain it to them and  guide them as parents even though we may be living separately. It's never easy though.

I have no valid reasons as to why couples divorce so easily these days. But I feel that as we go through the different stages in life we need different things in our partner. We grow as individuals as we get to know ourselves better, and sometimes the person we have become doesn't complement our partner anymore. We just need to part ways to continue our journey in this life.

I care not what others think

Ahh what I love most is the fact that I'm more confident now than I ever was in my twenties. I know what I want and what I don't want, and I finally can say 'no' to a person without feeling so bad about it.

I no longer tolerate any crap from another person who is trying to bully me. I have my opinion good or bad, and I'm not afraid to be heard; and even to be told in the face that my opinion sucks, and that I'm not always right. I can handle rejection without taking it to heart. After all what is life if we cannot laugh at ourselves.

What you see is what you get. I have no time to portray an image of myself that I'm not because I'm scared you might not like me. Friends should like and accept you as you are, if not I don't think I even want them around me. I'm not here to be judged -- as no one is perfect.